Many of us have experienced a professional watershed moment that didn’t look obvious from the outside but that changed everything. It’s not always dramatic. Often it’s quieter; a growing sense that something no longer fits, a role that looks right on paper but doesn’t feel in sync with how you feel internally. 

Across the SHE community, a number of women have made the decision to step away from the familiar into something else entirely; different industries, different paths, different motivations. Beneath the surface, their experiences share more in common than you might expect. We spoke to ten SHE Malta entrepreneurs to find out their unique stories about changing career paths.

The moment something shifted

For some, the turning point was gradual. A pull towards something more creative, as in the case of Vivienne Bajada who transitioned from public policy to co-founding a floral artistry business, The Blooming Bunch. The now Creative Director describes a desire “to work on something multifaceted, a path that allowed continuous learning alongside hands-on implementation.” Kenzie Sammut, who moved from finance to fitness realised she was “captivated by people, connection and tangible support” in any role she had. The energy and connection of a fitness class ultimately led to her move. 

Sephora Zammit, formerly a chef and now a health coach, experienced a personal health transformation that made her reevaluate her own purpose. For others, it was clear cut. After more than a decade, weathering the intensity of JP Morgan’s investment banking trading floor, Helen Chorley reached breaking point. “Burnout forced me to stop and question a life that looked successful but didn’t feel like mine. I rebuilt my life around freedom, impact, and backing people and ideas I genuinely believe in, in a way that’s actually sustainable.” Nickii Mallia has worked in footwear retail, jewellery retail and IT and now pivoted to co-founding Malta’s first paint-splatting experience SPLAT! The pressure of commercial targets, intense travel and time away from loved ones led to anxiety and a search for a different way to work and live. “I wasn’t liking the person I was becoming. I had limited support and a heavy workload,” she candidly reveals.

Sometimes, life itself intervenes. Pavla Borg moved from banking to breathwork and mindset coaching and recalls a period marked by serious family illness and long commutes depriving her of family time. “I enjoyed my work, but I didn’t enjoy my life… so I chose to change it, even without knowing what I was stepping into.”

For Deea Buzdugan, the first shift from seven years as a lawyer to becoming a fashion designer was driven by a passion for haute couture. But the second, into fashion photography, was more pragmatic, dictated by the economic reality of mass production taking over the fashion market and overshadowing bespoke craftsmanship. Moving into the photographic side allowed her to remain in the same domain and continue to be creative.

The uncertainty no one talks about

Almost everyone mentioned having to let go of one’s identity. 

“I had to release myself from the label of chef and not fear calling myself a health coach,” says Sephora. Mette Lorenzen, who moved from a senior leadership role in iGaming to founding Mettelina, a cupcakes and champagne café, describes the feeling of losing what had become closely interlinked with who she was. Helen echoes that in banking, she knew exactly who she was and how she was measured. “Stepping into a world where the rules weren’t written meant trusting myself in a completely different way.” 

Pavla had worked hard and achieved two degrees, amidst raising children, to reach her position at the Central Bank. “So walking away felt like throwing all that away and losing a clear identity.” Her uncertainty was layered. “Starting again at 44 with no roadmap and going back to school was a huge step, especially as I moved into a field that was new and often misunderstood.” 

Proving oneself all over again, perception by others in the industry, securing clients in competitive industries, getting one’s message out there and reaching people… These are just some of the women’s ‘2am worries’. Kenzie raises the impact of a new career and entrepreneurship on family life, while Nickii wondered if the transition would make her happy or fill her with regret.

Vivienne worried about her lack of formal business knowledge and harboured a lingering fear of failure and imposter syndrome. Her Blooming Bunch co-founder, Stephanie Portelli, says “I already knew what the job entailed physically, but not mentally. Managing a business full time requires significant patience, resilience, courage and belief that what you’re doing matters.” 

What they had to unlearn

If career paths were simply about adding new skills, these shifts would be easier and linear. Instead, many spoke about what they had to unlearn. including the need for control.

Vivienne had to let go of expecting a steady routine, consistent rest and even for productivity to be directly proportional to revenue. Her partner Stephanie echoes the concept of having to accept that the rules had changed: “there are no weekends or workdays.”

Helen used to believe that “success only comes from certainty, control, and having all the answers ànd that rest is for wimps. I had to unlearn playing it safe and start making decisions based on intuition as much as data.” Nickii reflects that structure and precision were everything in her previous roles. So she had to unlearn “the idea that everything needs to be fully figured out before you begin.” 

Meanwhile, as a corporate leader, Mette established vision, strategy, and internal culture. Launching Mettelina, she assumed her strengths were mainly relevant for building teams but soon learned that entrepreneurship is also leadership (the difference being self-reliance and having to perform all the necessary roles). “Instead of having to unlearn, I felt it was more about relearning what I knew from a different perspective.”

Pavla describes a similar shift from “predicting outcomes” to “working with what shows up in the moment which requires presence rather than control. In finance there is safety in numbers, models and forecasts but in this work there is no such certainty and I had to learn to trust myself.”

Letting go of the need for everything to make sense is suggested by Claire Galea, a property consultant at Elite Real Estate, who previously worked in telecoms sales, event planning and even as a professional singer: “I had to learn to always believe in myself and trust my journey. If I love what I do and keep learning, it will always be worth it.” For Sephora, the unlearning was internal: “negative self-talk and not believing that I can do it.”

Others had to let go of deeply ingrained beliefs such as the idea “you must follow a single, linear path” or that “not following the classical model is a failure,” says Deea. Kenzie mentions having to explore herself in depth, “breaking down and unlearning the standard ways of being, of living, of delivering.”

Personal lessons learned from changing professional direction

Our past work isn’t wasted in a pivot. It shows up elsewhere. Deea notes that one of the most surprising lessons about changing careers is that “in fact, you’re not starting from zero…all your experience from your past will help you so much in the new one.” 

Mette has come to realise that her identity is not just the work itself but rather the HOW and WHY she does everything she does. “I love to create something new, bring visions to reality, challenge myself and learn new things so my entrepreneurial journey enables all of that.”

For many, success itself has been redefined. Claire puts it simply: “Success used to mean achievement and stability. Today, it means growth, balance, and giving life my all.”

“Running SPLAT! gives me a sense of fulfilment and connection that I didn’t have before. In my previous role, the impact I had on my clients was through a laptop screen. With SPLAT! I get to see people walk in one way and leave completely different,” Nickii shares.

Confronting fears, learning to regulate one’s feelings about leaving familiar territory, resilience, willingness to face uncertainty head-on… The paths of these women may be different but the universal thread running through them is trust. Trusting in oneself, in one’s work ethic, in the people around them. And above all, simply trusting in the process.

With thanks to:

Claire Galea, Property Consultant

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“We have one shot but we can live many versions, and I know I am definitely not just one version.”

Deea Buzdugan, Visual Storyteller

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“ The only person that needs to be happy with your choices is yourself, not your family, not your friends, not anyone.”

Mette Lorenzen, Founder, Mettelina Gourmet Cupcakes, Coffee and Champagne

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“My identity is not just my work, but how and why I do everything I do.”

Sephora Zammit, Health Coach

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“I learned I can have more than one identity and even merge them.”

Helen Chorley, Investor & Advisor

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“You can’t hide behind a brand when you are the brand! I’ve had to own my voice, my visibility, and my value at a completely different level.”

Vivienne Bajada, The Blooming Bunch, Co-founder and Creative Director 

Website | Instagram

“Giving myself permission to fail—and staying endlessly curious—has been key.”

Nickii Mallia, SPLAT! Malta, Co-founder, Director of Operations & Digital Strategy

Website | Linkedin | Instagram

“Building a business taught me that creativity thrives in a bit of chaos.”

Kenzie Sammut, The Wellness Zest, Health & Fitness Coach

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“The biggest reward is seeing the real impact on people’s lives.”

Pavla Borg, My Heroic Wellness, Mindset Coach & Breathwork Specialist

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“Living in integrity with my values became more important than being understood or seeking approval.”

Stephanie Portelli, The Blooming Bunch, Co-founder and Creative Director
“I don’t miss the micromanaging and the postponed deadlines but I do miss my wonderful colleagues.”

If there’s one takeaway from all of this, it’s that there’s no single way to change direction and no perfect moment to do it.

But there is a common thread: the willingness to question what’s no longer working, and to choose something else anyway.

Going on the hunt for a supportive, non-intimidating professional network can feel daunting. You can’t exactly ‘find your tribe’ by simply ordering it from a delivery menu.

Just witnessing social media behaviour, recalling your school years, or (if you’re a parent) navigating the school gate cliques is reminder enough that it’s rare to find a community where you don’t feel sized up, judged or – worse – invisible.

That’s why SHE Malta’s tenth anniversary this March is particularly significant…as a milestone that goes beyond longevity.

If you think back to 2016 (pre SHE Malta), women’s networks were rare. Remote work was less common, surreal as it now feels typing those words! Frank conversations about burnout and boundaries, confidence and visibility, pricing and USP weren’t mainstream, again strange as this may now seem. Over this past decade, the way we work has changed profoundly, forever shaped by the Covid era. 

One thing that hasn’t changed: entrepreneurship can be isolating and lonely.

Which is why a decade after its launch, what stands out about Malta’s first network for women in business is not just the number of events held or panels hosted. 

It’s the community that’s been tirelessly and steadily built, curated and sustained by founder Sarah Woods (and former partner Julia Perry in the initial years).

While recently writing about SHE Malta’s membership benefits, from the Real Talk series, Bridging Communities events and numerous seminars and workshops to coworking sessions, social events and of course networking opportunities, something became clear to me… Although each year’s programme of events is obviously intrinsic to SHE’s offering and identity, community is an equally essential part of the SHE story.

As you’re about to see, community stems from something deeper than programming itself. Because beyond the business learnings and advice, there’s something intangible and special that happens at a SHE Malta event.

It’s the warmth and the connection when you enter the room.
It’s the unspoken “step this way, we’ve got you” energy.
It’s the eureka moment when someone offers a helpful perspective on a challenge you’ve been carrying quietly for months.

Busy lives and work schedules mean not everyone attends every gathering. Some faces become familiar quickly; others surface less frequently. But the constants are connection without competitiveness, ambition without intimidation. And no matter who you run into at a SHE event, everyone is a valued part of the SHE Malta family.

The sense of belonging is felt immediately by newcomers and longstanding members alike. In an age of increasing competition, disconnectedness, AI and social media artificiality, that sense of belonging is hard to come by – and even harder to create.

For Rebekah Kamsky, Founder of Little Isle Digital Strategy & Ecommerce Studio, community has translated into not only connection but commercial momentum:

“Joining the SHE community has been a wonderful experience. As an entrepreneur, it can often be isolating at times, so it’s imperative to surround yourself with like-minded people and to invest in yourself. Not only have I had the opportunity to share my own skills and insights in my field with others in the network, which led to further business development and leads, but I’ve also learnt so much from other members of the community. If you’re looking for a place to network, grow, share and thrive, then joining the SHE community is most definitely the best decision you could make, for yourself or your business trajectory.”

It’s a reminder that community is not simply emotional support. It’s exchange. It’s collaboration. It’s professional acceleration.

Mireille Petit-Pellegrini, Founder and Coach at Thrive Positive (whose eagerly awaited post-event summaries perfectly capture the SHE ethos), reflects:

“Through each of the stories shared at a recent SHE brunch, it was evident that no matter how tough the year may have been… there is such amazing growth in everyone. Belonging to this group is one of the things I have treasured most about the year. Hopefully newer members got a feel of what a special “tribe” ⁨Sass Woods⁩ has grown and nurtured and the love and respect in the room for one another. Here’s to continuing to support one another, grow, learn from each other and collaborate together. It’s a community like no other and one of women at their best!” 

Diana Iskander, Founder of LANOUR International, also sees community through a thoughtful lens (no pun intended):

“As a business owner, photographer, and proud member of the SHE Malta community, capturing these moments feels deeply personal to me, as I witness women supporting one another and shaping their own entrepreneurial paths. Being behind the camera allows me to preserve genuine connections and meaningful exchanges that live on far beyond the event itself, while contributing to a visual story that truly reflects the heart and values of SHE. I am sincerely grateful for this community and for the warmth, openness, and shared belief that growth is stronger when it is experienced together.”

Finally, as owner of boutique editorial and copywriting service, WriteContent and a SHE member myself, I can personally attest this network has provided me with a safe, non-judgemental environment, and has also made me feel less ‘remote’ as a remote-working solopreneur. It has strengthened my belief in my work, sharpened my confidence in my business journey and offered education I might otherwise have sought alone (not necessarily with a fruitful outcome).

No community sustains itself for ten years by accident. Behind it all is the highly intentional – and gently powerful – leadership of its director.

The tone, the values, the balance between professional growth and human connection have not been incidental. They have been intentionally shaped and quietly driven.

“Each day, I’m fueled by the incredible stories of our members; women who embark on new ventures, forge meaningful collaborations and pursue their dreams with renewed self-assurance. I’m super proud that through this community, women have banded together to support one another’s endeavours, pass on knowledge and mentor other women who wish to carve out their own unique path. It truly embodies the SHE motto of ‘collaboration over competition’.  – Sarah Woods, Director, SHE Malta.

Community can’t be manufactured or downloaded overnight. It is built, conversation by conversation, event by event, collaboration after collaboration. As SHE Malta reaches ten years of building community – in an increasingly digital, fast-paced business world – its role as a space prioritising connection, generosity and shared progress feels more essential than ever.

So I’m toasting ten years of SHE Malta (and quietly hoping we’ll be celebrating ten more).

When it comes to self development books, there’s never been more choice than now. In fact, there’s so much literature out there, it’s almost overwhelming. 

At SHE, we’re no strangers to personal development recommendations that deliver new perspectives, sharpen your understanding and help you work on what matters for your business, your relationships, the inner you, and even just this thing called life. So this month’s blog is yet another self development gift from us to you. 

BUT before we get to the treat below, first dear reader, a little pep talk.

We’re calling time on the whole “New year, New you” thing… 

Because Truth: Each one of us is an amazing living, breathing library of our own stories, our experiences, triumphs and defeats – those elements that make us uniquely us and the many lessons we’ve learned along the way (often without knowing it). 

This is what it is to be human. 

Not models that malfunction and need throwing out each December to be replaced with a brand new one in January. You don’t need to become a new you. 

However…consciously striving to slightly improve the already pretty awesome version of yourself…? Now THAT’S something to get behind! 

Because here’s another truth: being human also means being an ever-evolving work in progress. This is especially accurate if you’ve chosen an entrepreneurial life.

(A wise woman once said “you can’t develop your business without developing yourself”.) 

So, if you’re looking for greater balance, meaning, business growth, kick-ass inspiration or to simply understand your world or the people around you better – but don’t quite know where to start – we’ve done the work for you. Again, we’ve carefully curated a selection of great reads on:  business, communication, money, mindset, relationships, midlife and inner work. 

So, put your phone away, stick a do not disturb sign on your door and feast your eyes on SHE Malta’s latest list of self development book recommendations.

BUSINESS & ENTREPRENEURSHIP 

Top Picks

1 The E-Myth Revisited  by Michael E. Gerber  

 Why most small businesses fail and how to turn them around. 

Gerber provides a step-by-step guide to building a successful business, focusing on systems and processes rather than just entrepreneurial passion.

A staple for business owners: Gerber dismantles the myth that great technical skill equals business success. Instead he shows how systems, roles and strategic thinking transform small businesses into sustainable ventures.

2 The Lean Startup, How Today’s Entrepreneurs Use Continuous Innovation to Create Radically Successful Businesses – Eric Ries  

A modern approach to entrepreneurial experimentation with businesses and products.

Ries teaches founders to test assumptions, iterate quickly and validate ideas with real customers — valuable for anyone launching or scaling a business. The book provides practical advice on how to create and manage successful startups in an age of uncertainty.

3 Start Something That Matters – Blake Mycoskie

Mycoskie shares the story behind TOMS and the rise of purpose-driven entrepreneurship. 

The book argues that business can be both profitable and socially impactful, without traditional barriers to entry. It offers practical insights on launching ventures aligned with values. Less about systems, more about mission-led action.

4 The $100 Startup – Chris Guillebeau

“This book is more than a ‘how to’ guide, it’s a ‘how they did it’ guide that should persuade anyone thinking about starting a business that they don’t need a fortune to make one.” – John Jantsch

This description by Jantsch (author of Duct Tape Marketing and The Referral Engine) nails it! Guillebeau went looking for what actually works in the real world for low-budget entrepreneurs, listening to and witnessing the case studies of diverse founders. His book shows you how to turn skills and passions into income streams without huge upfront costs, 

 If you love hearing inspiring yet practical examples of people, tiny ideas, small beginnings, this one’s for you.

5 Hug Your Customers – Jack Mitchell

A human-centred approach to customer service, emphasising the power of personal connection and delight.

Particularly useful for service-based founders looking to differentiate through culture and care. Mitchell argues that genuine warmth and attention aren’t “soft skills” but commercial advantages, showing how loyalty is built through everyday interactions rather than grand gestures.

FINANCIAL LITERACY, MONEY PSYCHOLOGY & RISK

Top Picks

6 Same as Ever, Timeless Lessons on Risk, Opportunity and Living a Good Life, Morgan Housel

The important events that will shape the future are inherently unpredictable. Instead, we should be asking a different question: What will be the same ten years from now? What will be the same one hundred years from now? 

Housel focuses on the patterns in human behaviour that don’t change, even as technology and markets do. Through short, reflective essays, he explores risk, uncertainty, incentives, and long-term thinking. The book blends financial psychology with life philosophy, arguing that understanding human nature matters more than predicting trends.

7 Money: A Love Story : Untangle Your Financial Woes and Create the Life You Really Want – Kate Northrup

Northrup reframes money as a relationship, shaped by values, emotions and self-worth rather than rules or discipline alone. 

Drawing on personal experience, psychology and feminine leadership principles, she challenges hustle culture, scarcity thinking and productivity-driven ideas of success. Unlike traditional personal finance books, this is not about budgets, investments or financial rules — it’s about changing how women emotionally relate to money in the first place. Blending reflective exercises with a softer, cyclical approach to earning and spending, Northrup encourages women to work with their energy rather than against it – particularly relevant for those unlearning guilt, overwork and fear around money.

8 The Richest Man in Babylon – George S. Clason

Timeless personal finance fundamentals and wisdom told through parables. 

Providing core principles on saving, investing and financial discipline, this book is intended to resonate with readers new to money management or seeking foundational habits to establish and ensure long-term wealth.

Also recommended

9 Think and Grow Rich – Napoleon Hill  

With over 100 million copies sold worldwide since its 1937 publication, this foundational mindset book has cemented its status as one of the best-selling self-help books of all time. 

Based on Hill’s study of successful individuals, the famous business bible examines the power of desire, faith, persistence, and goal-setting. Though decades old, many of the principles of Think and Grow Rich for long-term personal and financial growth still resonate.

10 Women & Money: Owning the Power to Control Your Destiny – Suze Orman

A woman-focused guide to financial confidence, literacy and security, delivered in Orman’s characteristically direct style.

Addressing money through the lens of women’s independence, protection and long-term stability, this book combines clear financial guidance with an emphasis on informed decision-making and self-reliance. Where Northrup addresses the relationship with money and mindset shift, Orman’s book is more action-focused. Though acknowledging certain emotional barriers, her emphasis is on taking control by understanding your finances, protecting yourself, and making smart money decisions. A practical, instructive and empowering read.

COMMUNICATION & RELATIONSHIPS

Top Picks

11 Crucial Conversations – Pattersen, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler

A practical framework for navigating high-stakes conversations with clarity and respect.

Essential for leaders, founders and anyone whose success depends on relationships. This book teaches structured dialogue for emotionally charged moments, helping readers build influence without conflict.

12 Who Deserves Your Love – KC Davis

With radical honesty and a compassionate touch, this book helps readers distinguish between love that nourishes and attachments that drain.

Davis tackles our most common – and toughest – questions about love and relationships with warmth and insight. This practical guide explores how vulnerability and trauma shape our connections. Packed with lists and diagrams, it helps you discern who truly deserves your time – a guide to finding love and being loved – exactly as you are.

INNER WORK, HEALING & EMOTIONAL WELLBEING

Top Picks

13 How to Meet Yourself – Nicole LePera

This superb workbook is the companion to LePera’s best-selling book How to Do the Work. 

One of the most thoughtfully compiled books I’ve ever seen, LePera’s comprehensive book follows on from the hugely successful How to Do the Work, helping users actively apply its teachings. Readers are encouraged to drill down and understand self-limiting patterns, exercise compassionate self-observation, and literally do the work and benefit their lives. 

14 The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery – Brianna Wiest

Exploration of  self-sabotage as an unconscious attempt at self-protection rather than failure. 

Wiest connects emotional patterns, trauma responses, and identity to the ways people block their own growth. The focus is on inner work, accountability, and transformation rather than tactics. It’s introspective and emotionally driven rather than research-based.

15 Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before? – Julie Smith

A practical wellbeing manual that tackles the everyday issues that affect us all and offers practical, potentially life-changing solutions. 

Written in short, bite-sized entries, this book is great for people looking for structured, actionable emotional tools. It’s organised into sections covering specific challenges and provides tools to help with managing anxiety, dealing with criticism, battling low mood, building self-confidence, finding motivation, learning to forgive yourself.

MINDSET, HABITS & BEHAVIOUR CHANGE

Top Picks

16 Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less – Greg McKeown

A concise, compelling guide to essentialism. Focus relentlessly on what matters and eliminate the rest. 

A strong follow-on to McKeown’s core ideas about simplifying priorities. The book is especially relevant for women juggling competing demands, offering a disciplined framework for saying no without guilt and reclaiming time, energy and clarity. While written for a general audience, the book has particular resonance for women juggling competing demands, offering a clear framework for prioritisation, boundaries and intentional decision-making.

17 Fear Less Pippa Grange

“Pippa Grange has something to teach all of us when it comes to letting go of perfectionism and anxiety, and living with open hearts rather than clenched fists. Fear Less is a total game-changer.’ Brené Brown.”

 If we were truly free from fear, what could we achieve? We strive for success, but we are rarely happy. The more we try to win – putting on a brave face for work or family – the more we risk losing ourselves. And even reaching our goals can feel strangely hollow. The culprit? Fear. It makes us anxious, or shameful, or turns us into perfectionists. We pretend to be someone else while aiming for a status that’s never truly satisfying.

18 The Let Them Theory – Mel Robbins

How this could NOT be included? The book that everyone is reading (including yours truly) and talking about. 

Robbins argues that many people waste energy trying to control others’ reactions and behaviour. The “let them” mindset encourages detachment from external validation and unnecessary conflict. The book is about boundaries, emotional regulation, and personal agency across several key aspects of life. Pragmatic, refreshing and confidence-building.

Also recommended

19 Everything Is F*cked – Mark Manson

A refreshingly blunt take on meaning, acceptance and prioritisation. 

Manson blends humour with psychology to challenge conventional positivity and help readers focus on what truly matters. An deliciously irreverent exploration of hope, values and emotional decision-making in an uncertain world. Manson argues that modern anxiety isn’t caused by lack, but by misplaced beliefs about happiness, control and optimism. Drawing on psychology and philosophy, he challenges feel-good self-help and makes the case for grounded values, responsibility and acceptance rather than constant positivity.

20 Ikigai – Héctor García & Francesc Miralles

Ikigai explores the Japanese concept of purpose as the intersection of meaning, joy, and contribution. 

Through cultural observation, interviews, and lifestyle insights, the book links longevity with intention and community. It’s gentle, reflective, and philosophical rather than prescriptive. More about orientation to life than achievement.

21 Manifest(o): Unlock the life you deserve and find contentment in your everyday – Candice Braithwaite

Believing that you deserve abundance is the route to inviting it into your life. But what if your experiences so far have demonstrated the exact opposite? 

What does Manifesting look like if you’re not white, thin, traditionally pretty, or able-bodied? Candice has learnt to manifest the hard way and can teach you to do the same. Focusing on the four pillars of Wellness, Wealth, Love and Happiness, Candice’s customary no bullsh*t candour will guide you towards the life you desire and show you that manifesting can be for everyone, not just those to whom the universe has already been kind.

22 Tiny Habits: Why Starting Small Makes Lasting Change Easy – BJ Fogg

If Charles Duhigg and James Clear’s ‘habits classics’ weren’t enough for you, you might want to add this one to the list. Written by a pioneer in behaviour design, Tiny Habits shows how small behaviour shifts lead to big results — ideal for readers who want practical tools to transform routines.

23 You Become What You Think – Shubham Kumar Singh

A contemporary guide to the power of mindset, this book explores how our thoughts shape daily experience, habits, emotional wellbeing and relationships. 

Singh distils ideas from psychology, neuroscience and personal insight into accessible, bite-sized practices designed to increase self-awareness and intentional living. It’s particularly useful for readers newer to self-development who want practical tools for mental clarity and growth

OUR WORLD & SOCIAL INSIGHT

Top Picks

24 Men Explain Things to Me – Rebecca Solnit

Exquisitely written with grace and energy, this collection of essays is a sharp cultural analysis on gender and voice.

It has become a touchstone of the feminist movement, inspired the term ‘mansplaining’, and established Solnit as one of the leading feminist thinkers of our time, inspiring everyone from radical activists to Beyonce Knowles. From rape culture to mansplaining, from French sex scandals to marriage and the nuclear family, from Virginia Woolf to colonialism, Solnit delivers a fierce and incisive exploration of the issues that a patriarchal culture will not necessarily acknowledge as ‘issues’ at all. 

25 Noise – Daniel Kahneman, Olivier Sibony & Cass Sunstein

How noise (random variability in human judgement) distorts decisions, even among experts acting in good faith.

Drawing on behavioural science, it shows how inconsistency affects hiring, medicine, justice, and business. Unlike bias, noise is harder to see, but just as costly. Co-author of Freakonomics calls it “an absolutely brilliant investigation of a massive societal problem that has been hiding in plain sight.”

Also recommended

26 Freakonomics – Steven D. Levitt & Stephen J. Dubner 

Assume nothing. Question everything! This is the message at the heart of this rule-breaking, iconoclastic book that turned everyone’s view of the world upside-down and became an international multi-million-copy-selling phenomenon.

Now updated 20 years after its release, this atypical self-help book is worth reading for its provocative insights that sharpen curiosity and critical thinking.

WOMEN, IDENTITY, POWER & LIVED EXPERIENCE

Top Picks

27 The Heroine’s Journey, Woman’s Quest for Wholeness – Maureen Murdock

Murdock reframes the traditional hero’s journey through a female lens.

The Heroine’s Journey offers a map for women seeking psychological wholeness beyond cultural expectations, in a society where she has been defined according to masculine values. Drawing on cultural myths and fairy tales, ancient symbols and goddesses, and the dreams of contemporary women, Murdock illustrates the need for — and the reality of — feminine values in Western culture.

28 Revolting Women: Why midlife women are walking out, and what to do about it – Lucy Ryan 

Professional women over 50 are faced with a triple-whammy of discrimination: they are not male, young, or linear in their career paths. 

As a result, they are leaving corporate life and taking their career into their own hands. And with it, they take their abundant wisdom, energy and ambition. Drawing on new research by Dr Lucy Ryan that fills a longstanding data gap, this book shows that assumptions about declining midlife motivation and energy just aren’t true for women and reveals how you can retain and develop this invaluable talent pool with a better understanding of their challenges and a few simple changes.

29 Wise Power: Discover the Liberating Power of Menopause to Awaken Authority, Purpose and Belonging – Alexandra Pope & Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer

Written with humour, fierce tenderness and practicality, Wise Power is a trailblazing guide to menopause, filled with nourishing wisdom and practical advice that restores the dignity of menopause. 

It’s time to redefine this pivotal time of life that is often mistakenly viewed as a health crisis that is ‘suffered from’ or ‘coped with’, and misinformation and myths around menopause can leave you feeling ignored and misunderstood. Wise Power is the radical new story of menopause – illuminating its power and potential. 

Also recommended

30 The Light We Carry – Michelle Obama

A reflective exploration of resilience, doubt and self-worth from a global figure. 

Obama’s mix of personal story and insight makes this a meaningful read for women seeking grounded leadership and self-confidence. Her emphasis is on everyday courage and self-trust, offering reassurance rather than instruction

If you missed them before, remember to check out the superb (whopping 42!)  recommendations we brought you in: https://shemalta.com/community/17-books-to-help-you-end-2024-and-start-2025-strong/ 

and 

https://shemalta.com/business/25-great-books-on-business-motivation-and-personal-development-for-summer-2024/

“When I think of community building, I think of SHE. It is more than a professional network. It is a space in which you can be fully seen and heard; a space where you can grow, collaborate and contribute – Sarah Woods, Director.

Whether you’ve been your own boss for some time, have recently started a business or are working on building something of your own while holding down a day job, you’re bound to experience certain challenges that most female entrepreneurs invariably face at some point. Whatever industry or field of specialisation you’re in, there’s no such thing as zero competition. It just goes with the territory (whether you’re a business owner or employee.) 

Being in business, particularly as a female, can feel overwhelming, confusing and lonely, all at once.

But what if you could find a safe, encouraging space for female-led businesses in Malta? 

? A community where you can surround yourself with women who would willingly mention your name in a room full of opportunities.

✊ A network of potential collaborative partners and new clients

?? A space that boosts your confidence, lifts you with a dose of optimism and regularly provides tips and tools to keep you on track.

? A genuine, nurturing tribe of other females who want nothing but the best for you and where you feel you belong, rather than an elitist club where you feel like you’re on the outside.

Sounds too good to be true? 

Erm, hello SHE Malta…

Co-founded in 2017 by Director Sarah (Sass) Woods and former partner Julia Perry, SHE Malta is an ever-growing family of aspiring founders, freelancers, business owners and women with an entrepreneurial mindset.

The SHE mission is clear: to support women in business. And its ethos of “collaboration over competition” is a lived one. The sense of community is evident walking into the monthly members’ meetups where a welcoming atmosphere awaits you, ahead of sessions delivering practical advice, enlightening and thought provoking discussions, and substantial networking.

No matter where you are in your business journey, how established you are or how far you feel/know you still have to go, Malta’s first network for female business owners is here to support YOU: uniting women from different industries on a monthly basis to share experiences, teach relevant lessons and have crucial conversations that can shape business direction.

Brimming with variety and value, ​the SHE Malta membership provides the perfect mix of online and in-person meet ups tailored for entrepreneurs and freelancers. As a member you’ll gain access to;

1. Informative Online Workshops 

Need help understanding your web analytics? Or maybe you could use some tips and tricks to become more confident with managing your finances? The online workshops such as the recent “From Clicks to Clarity” are structured with small businesses in mind, featuring experts who delve into the nitty gritty challenges and concerns that come with running your own business. Workshops are presented in a supportive way with a no judgement, no jargon promise and are delivered within 60 to 90 minutes max to honour your busy schedule.

2. In person meetups and seminars

SHE events come in diverse flavours, themes and formats; the phrase ‘something for everyone’ truly applies! 

Do you love hearing motivational stories from leaders, behind-the-scenes sharings from founders on how they scaled their business, and candid conversations about failures, lessons learned, running a family business and “Building Dreams”? SHE’s got you covered with monthly talks that give the floor to both SHE members and external business leaders.

Are you looking for an alternative to lecture style seminars? Step this way for the high energy, constructive experience of ‘networking express’. AKA speed dating for business owners, this addition to the SHE events calendar was one of 2025’s highlights. 

Do you long to leave your desk and use your hands for something other than constant texting and typing? SHE’s enjoyable creative sessions are sure to itch that scratch, giving you numerous opportunities to get handy (literally) with paint, clay or cosmetics! Meanwhile, exercise has even made its way into the events line up.

From individual guest speaker presentations, to discussion panels, to interactive workshops with group brainstorming, you can expect to hear insightful Q&A’s, experience valuable engagement, and come away with nuggets of wisdom and inspiration to help you in your new or existing business. The range of topics and domains covered is endless, and includes (to name a few):

business fundamentals such as: 

> accounting and legal essentials

> intellectual property considerations

> budgeting realities

> EU funding access

> leveraging PR for strategic branding

soft skills and self development are given equal spotlight:

> improving negotiation skills

> self care strategies

> evolution and reinvention

> mastering authentic leadership

> mindset and emotional intelligence

> protecting creativity

The list goes on. Held in different locations around Malta, events include:

> “Bridging Communities”: this series teams up with other organisations to present important, topical matters. An earlier edition, partnering with Silicone Valletta, provided lively and eye-opening discussion on “Women in Tech”. 2025 included “Level the Playing Field: Women, Talent & Sport” in collaboration with the European Parliament Liaison Office, as well as “Networking that Works” with the Foundation for the Promotion of Entrepreneurial Initiatives. Meanwhile, the annual International Women’s Day in collaboration with the Malta Chamber of SMEs is a highly popular fixture in the calendar, like a live TED talk with your local superwomen. 

> “Real talk” series features SHE members presenting the up-close-and-personal truths of their own lived business experiences.

> Pop-up co-working sessions are a bonus addition to the annual events calendar. Community members swap their usual daily work environment for delightful alternative settings such as Ruby Coworking or cosy Baker Street cafe – we’ve even taken our laptops to the beach! Knowledge sharing and conversation flow as much as the coffee at these popular gatherings.

> Special ticketed events hosted in collaboration with SHE members who are leading experts in their field 

> Community give back days have taken us to the Soup Kitchen.

3. Online Membership Directory 

Joining the membership gives you the opportunity to list your business in our private directory, where you can browse fellow members and the services or products that they offer. We make it easy for you to reach out and connect with community members directly. 

4. Community Support Online Chat Group

Our members-only Whatsapp group offers an indispensable sounding board and infinite well of information, thanks to the active participation of SHE members. Got a question about the latest government grants and schemes for businesses? Urgently need venue recommendations for your event? Need advice on a work automation tool? You’re sure to find at least one person who’ll quickly respond with clear information or a pointer in the right direction for useful resources. 

5. Social Meet-ups

SHE’s social series take the fear out of networking and create memories among people who are not just members but now friends. Members have been treated to countryside sunset picnics, shared their yearly wins and efforts over festive drinks and nibbles, met for a soul-nourishing Autumn swim – and somehow in between it all, paused to celebrate SHE. Because there’s always a good time for cake.

6. Exclusive, Industry-Specific Perks

Fun fact: when you become a SHE member, you will get a monthly reward. You read that right. In addition to ALL the above benefits, you’ll also receive a special discount or gift highlighting local businesses that we love. After all, you work hard and deserve to be treated. So there’s always a thoughtful and relevant surprise around the corner, not as just as a one-off but every month for the duration of your membership!

Can’t wait to become a member? There are several membership options:

3 months at EUR120. 6 months at EUR210. And 12 months at EUR360.

Stop putting your success on hold and invest in yourself. Sign up directly at shemalta.com. 

Want to know more? Don’t hesitate to contact us at [email protected]

Summer has its own rhythm. Lighter routines (if we’re lucky) and the welcome chance to slow down. But as summer moves towards autumn – admittedly a sunnier, warmer autumn in the Mediterranean – the shift back into work comes not just with more packed calendars. This year, the return feels different… Not only are we re‑establishing routines but many of us are also embracing new technologies, tools and learning systems that are reshaping how we work, learn and grow. 

Whether you’re running a business, leading a team, or managing your own career, this month’s blog is intended to motivate and re-energise you for the final quarter of the year. Who wants to crawl towards December’s finish line when you can finish the year with purpose instead? 

So here are ten tips to help you keep moving ONWARDS and UPWARDS!

1. Pace yourself

Coming straight out of holiday mode, it’s easy to overpromise and dive straight into big projects. But be wary of committing to grand plans as overwhelm can quickly undo motivation. Ease in with small, doable actions that restore a sense of control (think: early wins that help you get moving again calmly). Clear low‑hanging emails, address light admin, and reset any simple systems that slipped over summer.  Next, draft a roadmap that spreads your workload sensibly and breaks larger tasks into realistic stages. 

Remember: sustainable progress over sprinting and then stalling. 

Try this: do a 15‑minute inbox triage, action anything that takes under two minutes, and pick three quick wins to close today.

2. Carry out a goals health check

September is the perfect time to reassess objectives. Look at the goals you set earlier in the year and ask: Which ones still matter and which no longer serve you? Which need reshaping to reflect new realities? By focusing on realistic outcomes and sharpening the list, you’ll have a clear direction for the remaining months of the year and avoid spreading yourself thin by trying to do it all.

Remember: Two or three must‑wins for Q4 are plenty. 

Try this: run a short Stop / Start / Continue review and set one clear, measurable target you can hit by year‑end.

3. To‑do list tidy

A bulging to‑do list zaps energy. Categorise tasks using a simple frame (urgent / important / delegate / drop) and batch similar work so you’re not context‑switching all day. A cleaner list brings clarity. 

Remember: not everything deserves your attention; spend time where it counts.

Try this: Do a 20-minute brain-dump to note all open tasks, then use the 1‑3‑5 rule (1 big, 3 medium, 5 small tasks) for today’s plan.

4. Clear workspace = clear mind

Physical and digital clutter are brain chains. Take advantage of your wastepaper basket/shredder and reduce those paper mountains that sneakily build up, go stationery shopping for filing products to organise – bottom line, get papers off/away from your desk. Streamline your digital life: delete computer files or archive them into folders as required, trash emails unnecessarily occupying inbox real estate, unsubscribe from anything no longer serving you – and sit back and admire your handiwork. 

Remember: The simplest path to thinking more sharply, focusing more clearly and feeling lighter is a hack known as cleaning your desk.

Try this: set a 20/10 reset: 20 minutes to clear your physical space, 10 minutes to blitz your desktop and inbox.

5. Time management 

If your days tend to blur into one long grind, this is the moment to reset. Let time-blocking become your friend. Assign specific chunks of the day for deep work and group meetings together into set time slots. Build in a short buffer of five to ten minutes between time blocks to grab a drink, stretch your legs and clear your mind with a brief walk around the block to avoid running on fumes. Don’t forget the most revolutionary act of all: establish a daily cut-off time for replying to phone messages. And stick to it. 

Remember: Clearly defined working hours and boundaries are especially key for self-employed people (she said to herself) to prevent the feeling of being permanently on call.

Try this: reserve two weekly meeting‑light windows (or implement a daily power hour) for deep work. End the working day with a 10‑minute routine like updating your productivity app.

6. Harnessing AI

What a difference a year makes… And the biggest change since last summer is AI’s evolution from a novelty trend to an everyday helper. Save time by using AI‑powered project platforms to outline proposals, summarise meeting notes, turn transcripts into action points, or map a simple content calendar.

Remember: AI can speed up the process, but it can’t replace your judgement. Use it as a helper, not a substitute for your voice and expertise.

Try this: choose one workflow to automate this month (e.g., meeting summaries). Create three reusable prompts/templates and pilot them for two weeks.

7. Invest in YOU

Personal and professional growth is one of the most powerful ways to reignite motivation. And post‑summer is an excellent time to get into learning that aligns with your ambitions. Whether you sign up for a short online course, enrol in a certification programme, attend an online industry workshop/webinar or join a supportive and educational network (well hello SHE Malta), new skills can reignite your entrepreneurial/professional mojo. 

Remember: platforms like LinkedIn Learning, Udemy and Coursera now use AI to recommend tailored learning paths, making it easier than ever to discover opportunities you may not have considered.

Try this: pick one course, book a start date, and note one outcome you’ll apply within 30 days.

8. Lift your team

If you lead others, don’t forget they’re also likely to be adjusting to the ‘re-entry’, especially if they went on holiday. A light welcome‑back catch‑up over coffee, a brainstorming session, or even just informal updates can go a long way to helping your most valuable assets feel re‑aligned and motivated. 

Remember: there’s nothing wrong with sharing post-summer feelings with your team. In fact, they’re likely to appreciate you all the more for it. 

Try this: run a 30‑minute reset huddle where you all share priorities, existing obstacles, and agree on one small win to complete that week. If you work solo, you can do this via a voice note or written notes.

9. Healthy rhythms and routines

Our wellbeing not only fuels our output but it’s crucial to the success of our business. Yet entrepreneurs especially can easily overlook self-care, putting all their attention and energy into their business. Rebuild the basics (sleep, nutrition, movement, daylight). And bookend your day with simple open/close rituals including positive acts that calm, nourish and fulfil.

Remember: anchor your day with non-negotiable me-time to prevent work from sprawling into every part of each day.

Try this: adopt the 10-10-10 system and pick three rituals maximum that take ten minutes each (no, laundry/taking out the bins doesn’t count!). Eg. in the morning, pick three from: enjoying a warm drink in your favourite cup, stretching, doing yoga, journaling or reading. Before bedtime lights out, three from: journaling, reading, planning the next day, massaging your face with (safe) essential oils, meditation.

10. Recognise big and small wins

Don’t wait for the “big” achievements to celebrate. Motivation grows when you acknowledge it. As often mentioned by SHE Malta (including at the recent Lessons I’ve Learned event), small steps compound into big leaps. Reaching out to a potential lead, mastering a new app, finally clearing that task you’ve been delaying, or simply establishing a routine again…all builds confidence which in turn leads to momentum. 

Remember: progress comes in many different forms; it all counts.

Try this: start a Friday Wins & Lessons note; track one win and one learning each week to keep motivation visible.

Bonus tip: Protect thinking time

Strategy needs time and space. Allocate room in your week for ‘thinking time’ once or twice a week; phone away, notifications off, a clear page and a question to explore. Use these undistracted minutes where strategy can surface to map decisions, untangle problems, or plan the next sprint. 

Remember: Guard this like a meeting with your most important client. 

Try this: schedule two thinking time blocks for the next fortnight with a one‑line prompt, e.g. what would make Q4 a success?

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The shift from summer’s gentler pace to autumn’s deeper routine can be a cognitive drain, especially if some goals have slipped along the way (happens) this year. But it’s never too late for a simple reset that doesn’t feel daunting.

With organisation, reassessment, decluttering, time management, self-education and/or the smart use of tools, you can make the last season of the year a powerful and constructive launchpad. 

Hey you…yes YOU! Do you ever get the feeling that while your professional life is going well, there’s something more you could be doing for your development…like putting yourself out there with public speaking to present your knowledge, experiences, ideas or services? 

But does out there in the big scary world (or so you imagine) simply seem too daunting? Maybe because:

> You’re confident in small groups but terrified of presenting to a room of faces staring back at you?

> You’re unsure about your ‘right’ to take up space?

> The thought of facing a difficult or disengaged audience literally makes you feel sick?

> You’ve convinced yourself you don’t have anything interesting/useful to share with others?

If any of this sounds eerily familiar, this blog piece should hopefully chase these fears away and move you closer to standing up and claiming your spot – in the actually not so scary world – as a speaker! 

So, read on for our Grade A compilation of insightful, practical, ‘lived’ advice on public speaking, from some of SHE Malta community members:

Anthea Huber (Head of Design and Partner at Archi+), Donha Muscat (Founder and Director at St Paul’s Childcare and Pre-learning Centre and St Paul’s Institute), Giannella Barbieri (Managing Partner at GB Legal), Mette Lorenzen (Founder and Owner of Mettelina Cupcakes) and Tara Alvarez Garcia (Founder and Coach at TYS Coaching).

First, we wanted to know everyone’s most crucial advice for those who want – but are hesitant – to become more visible. All five women agree, confidence builds through action, not the other way round. Don’t worry about presenting flawlessly, feeling ready or being qualified enough because as Anthea says, “that moment may never come. Even if your voice shakes or you don’t express your thoughts brilliantly, just showing up is what matters”. “Start before you feel ready and trust that your voice is not only valid but needed,” Donha concurs. 

“Visibility doesn’t begin on stage,” Tara adds. “You don’t need a spotlight to start – just ownership and intention.” Describing visibility as a skill that develops gradually, rather than an innate personality trait, she recommends starting with “low-stakes opportunities that don’t stretch or paralyse you” (speaking in meetings, practising with a peer or sharing a simple insight on LinkedIn). “And don’t confuse fear with inability,” she warns. 

Mette emphasises the importance of focusing on what you can control – your mindset, preparation, and purpose – instead of other people’s reactions. “While feedback is valuable, fear of judgement shouldn’t hold you back from contributing. Visibility builds with consistency and mindfulness; if you know your ‘why’, don’t hold back, voice it!” she urges. Echoing this, Giannella raises the issue of generational conditioning, “many women growing up in the 80’s/90’s internalised the idea that staying small and quiet was safer to avoid judgement. But the shift comes from owning yourself, not waiting for permission or validation. Stand firmly in who you are and what you bring to the table,” she advises. 

In short, visibility is a question of action, ownership and purposefulness, not waiting to be perfect.

As for common misconceptions about public speaking (versus the reality!), one of the biggest myths is that public speaking involves a five star performance to avoid the audience’s judgement. But Tara explains that people aren’t looking for this, they’re looking for presence, “if you focus on expressing your values and experience (recovering calmly if you go off tangent), you’re leading, not surviving a performance.” Donha reminds us, “substance and sincerity matter more than style – you don’t need to act to connect. Preparation, self-awareness and understanding your audience are what truly elevate a talk. While theory and research add weight, the personal lens you bring leaves a lasting impression.” 

Interestingly, Mette observes “the most memorable moments often come from speaking from the heart, rather than perfectly presented slides.” Giannella agrees, “sharing thoughts or experiences openly doesn’t make a presenter look weak, it makes them relatable – and when people relate, they listen.” 

Another fascinating assumption is that great public speakers are naturally charismatic, extroverted or loud. As Anthea reveals, this is far from true. Describing herself as the biggest introvert, she points out that experienced speakers still feel nervous or unsure before stepping up. “It’s not a matter of possessing bulletproof confidence but of “being clear on why you’re speaking and who you’re speaking for.” 

In short, audiences respond to authenticity and connection more than a slick, rehearsed performance.

Wanting to know even more about our contributors’ specific experiences, we asked:

Giannella

What advice would you give someone delivering their very first presentation to a group? Treat it like a regular conversation with people who’ll benefit from your knowledge and experiences – or even a talk with your younger self. Think about what you’re giving, not how you’re coming across; it diffuses nervousness and makes you more present. Imposter syndrome is more often a sign you’re stretching into something meaningful, rather than not belonging. So don’t fight it. Acknowledge it, then keep going!

Do you practise your talks aloud beforehand? Not really. I know this goes against the common advice but I once rehearsed a presentation so much, it ended up stilted and I could sense the audience losing interest. Since then, I’ve adopted a more conversational approach, mapping out key points, being clear on how I want to start, and then letting the rest flow naturally. If the topic’s technical, I obviously do my research but still aim to speak to people rather than at them. 

Mette

Can you share a specific moment where something didn’t go to plan – and how you handled it? During my first big company speech (streamed to 2000 viewers!), everything seemed to go wrong. I dropped my notes, forgot my lines and left the stage thinking I’d failed! But afterwards, I received incredibly positive feedback, reminding me that being genuine is more important than being flawless. Another time, I totally blanked during a presentation and admitted it. The audience was so empathetic and supportive, I ended up delivering an impromptu talk on teamwork and support—ironically, a better fit than my original script.

What’s a memorable piece of feedback you received after a talk – and how did it shape your approach going forward? I once shared my personal journey at a newcomer’s orientation. It resonated so well that I mostly replaced slides with storytelling from that point. A young manager also revealed that she appreciated how a senior company member like myself openly admitted to not understanding something in a meeting. It made me realise that showing vulnerability can be powerful in creating a culture where it’s okay not to have all the answers.

Anthea

What’s one lesson about public speaking or presenting that you wish someone had told you before your first talk? I wish I’d known you don’t need to fill every minute or memorise every word. It’s actually okay to pause, breathe…even admit to losing your place. When audiences sense your humanness, they’re usually more forgiving and even rooting for you; people tend to remember how you made them feel, not the mistakes you made.

How do you adapt your delivery style for:
i) corporate audiences and casual settings? Keeping things structured with clear slides, defined points and concise language helps keep me on track with formal audiences – but I still try to keep it warm and approachable. In casual or community-based settings, I switch to a more conversational style, using storytelling and inviting some interaction for a more relaxed feel.

ii) scenarios outside your comfort zone? I remind myself that I’m not there to dazzle but to interact and contribute. If I’m honest, I usually end up slightly breathless from nerves and don’t exactly ‘lean into it’ but try to get through it as best I can! Mind you, the feedback afterward is almost always better than I thought I sounded in the moment, which is a relief!

Donha

Do you have any practical tips for structuring a talk or workshop so that it lands well and leaves a lasting impression? As a doctoral candidate and speaker in academic and professional forums, I’ve learned the importance of clarity and connection. I structure my talks around three pillars: context, content and call to action. First, I establish the real-life relevance of the topic. Then I share evidence-based insights and conclude with reflective prompts or next steps. Bringing in personal narratives and my research lend authenticity and credibility respectively. I also make space for discussion to encourage engagement, because constructing knowledge together helps the key messages ‘land’ more meaningfully and memorably.

Does a specific speaking engagement/workshop you delivered stand out in your memory and why? Speaking at an educational leadership event on early childhood development was a standout moment. I’d prepared thoroughly but soon realised the audience was more receptive to a conversational, story-led approach over a highly structured presentation. So I adapted my delivery, sharing personal experiences as a childcare founder and doctoral researcher. The atmosphere shifted leading to more engagement and meaningful dialogue. It reminded me that effective speaking is more about interaction than presenting. The feedback confirmed how valuable storytelling is in bridging the gap between research, policy, and practice.

Tara

What do you focus on during a presentation to maintain your composure, confidence and connection with your audience? Despite years of experience, I still get nervous. But I’ve reframed this as a sign that I care and use this as ‘fuel’ for my talk. Clarity is grounding. I ask myself who the audience is and what I want them to walk away with? Without those answers, real connection is just guesswork. I usually arrive early, get a feel for the space, tune into what’s already been said or link to something timely. I prepare meaningfully (no memorised scripts): strong opening, key messages, clear close. Staying in the moment and being responsive to who’s in front of me, keeping eye contact, referencing someone in the room, treating the audience like colleagues, avoiding jargon or ‘polished stage voice’ – just clear, honest communication. When you show up confident, human and prepared, people listen.

Do you consciously use storytelling and personal examples in your presentations. If so how and what benefits does this bring? Storytelling is absolutely how I engage, but not every story is planned. I prepare some examples but also leave space for live stories to emerge that resonate and stick in people’s minds long after the presentation. Stories create emotional safety, give permission and prove you don’t have to be perfect to lead, just real – vulnerability isn’t about oversharing, it’s about relevance. I share lived experiences, not impersonal Google results; the rocky starts, the slow climbs, the times I’ve got it wrong. Because when you speak from experience, people don’t just hear you, they trust you. 

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And there you have it: motivation, mentoring and some good old myth-busting on connection and confidence, in-the-moment awareness, and resilience amidst discomfort. Hopefully, these nuggets of wisdom about what actually makes an effective public speaker will help you move the needle forward in your professional – or even personal life. 

Now go find your nearest podium!

Ethical Living’s Olivia Bilocca and The Change Agent Elaine Dutton talk about overcoming ingrained cultural and personal patterns in order to have the conversations we find difficult

Some conversations stay with us long after the words are said and can leave a lasting impact. But some words also remain unspoken and essential conversations never happen…leading to misunderstandings, resentments and fractured professional and personal relationships.

A recent SHE Malta event saw HR consultant and psychotherapist Olivia Bilocca and HR and business consultant Dr Elaine Dutton deliver sound, experience-based advice on professional and personal communication approaches. Packed with insightful techniques for speaking up more confidently and effectively about the things that matter most, Navigating Tough Conversations not only discussed workplace communication but opened up a wider inquiry:

How do we navigate truth, courage, empathy and conflict…in a culture that often teaches us to avoid discomfort in favour of silence?

The experts start with a candid look at the influence  of Maltese cultural values on communication styles. Traditional structures like the Catholic Church and close-knit families valued obedience and silence, seeing these as forms of respect, an insight familiar to some members who share that they “did not have conversations but instructions” growing up.

Some attendees also reflect that the ‘high context’ culture of the Maltese workplace – which attaches great value to interpersonal relationships – can significantly impact communication styles and assertiveness. “In Malta, it’s not rare for people to have worked together for well over ten years. We know each other’s kids, attend each other’s weddings, discuss the minutiae of our lives etc. So the distinction between the personal and the professional can become blurred, making it feel like an act of betrayal when faced with giving a colleague feedback,” one SHE Malta member observes. In comparison, workplace cultures in Northern Europe and USA are generally more ‘low context’ environments, focusing on goals and work; employees’ lives are more private. This can ultimately help make appraisals and discussions less prone to becoming an emotional battlefield.

The event covered another deeply resonating topic: the role of family environment in our threshold for managing conflict. “In childhood, we absorb the mechanics of how to relate to others, how to manage discomfort and what constitutes acceptable behaviour,” Olivia explains. “If the people around you in your childhood tended to blow up at the mere mention of a personal or contentious matter, you will most likely have internalised the belief that confrontation equals danger and do everything to avoid giving feedback, even when it’s absolutely necessary.”

Whatever family ‘communication rules’ an individual learned early on – open, collaborative and solution-based versus closed, combative or avoidance-based, this often reveals itself when they enter the workforce. As Olivia points out, “these patterns don’t magically vanish when a person begins their professional life.” Elaine adds that employees who have inherited negative rules of communication often remain silent – even in positive company cultures where they are encouraged to air their concerns. “A lot of these people are operating from a need to be liked in order to be appreciated and valued. And let’s not forget that managers and business leaders have their vulnerabilities too.”

Olivia also shares different attachment styles it is possible to have. Some people will display a secure attachment style – being comfortable expressing their needs and resolving conflict calmly. People with an anxious attachment style often over-explain or seek reassurance. Meanwhile, the avoidant attachment style applies to individuals who are uncomfortable with emotional expression, often sidestepping any mildly awkward conversation and becoming silent when someone raises an issue.

So what can nervous or reluctant communicators do to handle these internal barriers to having successful conversations?

Elaine shares some key reflective questions for people to consider before initiating any hard conversation. These include deciding on your desired outcome, assessing your mental readiness for the necessary conversation, backing your words up with accurate facts, identifying if you’re speaking with your emotional or rational brain and recognising your own role in the situation.

Another topic of conversation is the difference in how younger and older generations handle feedback. Several attendees voiced frustration with Gen Z employees who bristle at constructive criticism and break down in shock during reviews. Elaine highlights this generation’s increased choices, greater autonomy, fewer challenges and less exposure to hierarchical structures as likely contributing factors in their lack of resilience.  “This generation is used to having a voice so when we expect instant compliance rather than discussion from them, they push back,” Olivia emphasises.

Nevertheless, boundaries matter, not least in the professional setting. “We’re not advising you to allow endless renegotiation of decisions or just avoid conversations,” Elaine reassures “but we need to recognise that younger generations need to be taught resilience without discouraging engagement.”

Elaine illustrates the balance between caring and challenging. “While empathy is important (and a beautiful quality), empathy alone can be a drawback,” she cautions. “When we over-identify with others’ discomfort, it can make us put off necessary conversations but this inaction can then lead to more serious problems down the line.” Thus empathy and assertiveness should not be seen as opposites but as mutual partners in meaningful, results-focused dialogue.

How exactly does one achieve this though? Elaine offers a practical, implementable five-step template for structuring hard conversations so that the truth is easier for the other person to hear and digest.

Finally, the audience is led through key do’s and don’ts for expressing oneself, plus a useful reference scale for doing so assertively.

Participants are then invited to complete worksheets for structuring a real-life difficult conversation using Elaine’s template. The exercise is illuminating. “I’ve been putting off a conversation with a colleague for months,” one attendee shares. “Just writing it down helped me realise how much I was personalising the issue.” Another realises that “saying it out loud” helped her hear how her tone might land. As a result, she softens her words but does not “dilute the message”.

Wrapping up, both speakers emphasise the ongoing effort required to navigate tough conversations. Olivia notes, “we adapt how we show up, depending on context. Our core patterns remain however so we can’t expect to resolve everything in one conversation. But a greater awareness lets us choose something better”.

“Not every conversation will go perfectly,” Elaine admits. “And the first conversation will always feel clunky,” she counsels. “But that doesn’t mean it’s failing; it means it’s real. If you’ve shown up with care, clarity and courage, you’ve taken a big step towards succeeding.”

Final reflections from members underscore the emotional impact of the session. “I’ve been avoiding this kind of growth,” someone says. “But now I feel more equipped to lean in, not retreat.”

This article is based on insights shared at a private SHE members’ event, March2025. Attendee contributions have been anonymised for privacy. 

For information on Olivia Bilocca’s work and services, visit www.ethicalliving.com  and Linkedin 

For information on Elaine Dutton’s work and services, visit www.thechangeagent.eu and Linkedin 

Olivia and Elaine will be running “Navigating Tough Conversations – A practical workshop for business leaders and HR professionals” on the 17th June and then again on the 23rd October.

Interested in joining Malta’s original community of female entrepreneurs and freelancers? Find out more here  | Linkedin | or contact [email protected]

“I treasure all my audiences. Understanding where they travelled to in their imagination while listening to me play…I feel like the audience’s imagination actually completes my music.” – Yun Cai

In 2020, as our next chosen Wonder Woman of Malta says, “the whole world learned it’s okay for life to slow down a little”. Some people used this new scenario to learn a new language, some picked up paintbrushes and embraced creativity, others immersed themselves in exercise – and some baked like maniacs and drank a whole wine cellar (I’ve no idea who did this).  

Yun Cai sat down at her piano in her apartment, put self expression (and two decades of classical training) into practice and “started creating non-stop”. Her journey into piano improvisation – creating new music live rather than reciting rehearsed sheet music – had begun. 

The outcome? In just four years, Yun has made a name for herself with her gift for spontaneous composition. She has mesmerised audiences in and beyond Malta with her sound, and wowed them with visual experiences that are increasingly ambitious in design and scope – including almost getting blown off a building. No joke. 

SHE Malta cofounder Sass and I have been lucky enough to witness Yun’s talent on a few occasions. More recently, I interviewed her as our third Wonder Woman of Malta. You’re in for a treat and some surprises…

1.  You started classical piano training at just four years old and achieved Level 10 proficiency by 15. Was this led by your own request or more by family members/school?
I have loved music for as long as I can remember as both my father and grandfather had great musical talent so I think it’s in my family’s blood. In fact my name in Chinese means melody and rhythm so that says it all! I first started playing keyboard aged 3 and by age 5, I had already passed grade 8 and was learning quickly. The suggestion for me to start playing the piano came from my teacher, and my family has fully encouraged and supported this through the years.

2. What were these piano playing years were like:
i) How frequently did you play?
I played every day and was the lead pianist in my class.

ii) Were there teaching styles you did (and did not) respond to/prefer more than others?
I received very strict and classical training. I guess the rigid part is something no child enjoys that much. Also the daily set practice isn’t so easy for a kid who just loves to play.

iii) Did you have a particular mentor or teacher that was instrumental (excuse the pun) in your continued piano playing, discipline, love for this musical form?
Yes, I’ve had a few piano mentors and teachers at different stages in my 15 years of training as a student’s mentoring requirements change according to their skills development. They are all outstanding performers and professors. I remember one was too strict and never laughed(!) but she was extremely professional and paid great attention to details. I also had a younger teacher who was very laid back, talented and a John Lennon fan. They both influenced me in different ways.

iv) Did you – or were you allowed to – pursue other hobbies/interests outside of piano playing? If so, tell us a bit about this.
I had many other interests and hobbies: basketball, tennis, ballet, folk dance, theatre and poetry classes. I also used to draw a lot and attended competitions. It was a very broad reach of studies and education which I think all played crucial parts once I started creating and playing my own shows later in life.

v) Do you play any other instruments?
Organ and drums…loved them!

3. After moving to Malta, you had the reality of working and earning an income.
i) What exactly led you back to the ivory keys?
It was thanks to Covid actually … The whole world learned that it is okay for life to slow down a little. I finally had the time and space to look introspectively and I started creating non-stop. The whole thing just kept growing. It was the best thing that could have happened.

ii) Did you have your piano sent from China or did you buy it in Malta?
Malta as there are many good piano options here.

4. How has your Chinese heritage influenced your music, and how does it blend with the European and Maltese cultural elements you’ve encountered?
I didn’t think too much about my Chinese heritage when going into neo-classical piano composition but focused more on my personal feelings and connection to this world. But I guess the fact that I’m from China will always exert a certain influence on me in different ways, for example, choosing improvisation as the key component of my art expression. We have thousands of years of history of Chinese musicians who improvised via ancient instruments; it was quite common among musicians going back in time.

5. Performing a recital is already skilful but you are an improvisation performer – a whole other level of talent. 

i) What inspired and continues to inspire your improv compositions and performances?
For me, it’s the most natural, comfortable and authentic way of expressing what I’m feeling right there in that very moment. But also…maybe two decades of memorising sheet music became tiring and I wanted something different. For me, it’s hard to get 100% invested and be fully present with my musical touch if I’m having to use half my brain energy to recall memorised music instead of focusing on my technique and composing music myself.
 
ii) Given that you are performing a brand new piece each time, could you describe your process when preparing for a new collaboration or event?
Great question! I only play in venues that inspire me in one way or another, whether that’s in terms of their physical space, history, architecture, the people I’m collaborating with. But also, each space has its own energy and a venue’s attraction can lie simply in this energy…so sometimes, I’m just drawn to the aura I pick up from a particular space. I’ll spend hours and days inside the venue, spending time with everyone involved before my actual show to soak up all the ideas and energy. Every show I do is different so I’m highly involved in the entire creation process – it’s not the ‘plug and play’ style of doing things.

6. Have you had to make any sacrifices for the sake of pursuing your passion?
I prefer to look at it as making adjustments or commitments rather than sacrifices as this is something that truly resonates with me and enriches my life in numerous ways. Yes it does involve constant travelling, late nights, weekends without any breaks, exhaustion from jetlag, pre-show nerves, uncertainty and worry. Each concert relies on numerous logistical elements working together correctly and on time, and so many things can go wrong during a show. The audience doesn’t see the behind-the-scenes energy and work that goes into practising, recording, creating and crafting ideas, social media promotion, marketing and communications, photography, filming and editing. Not to mention the personal fear you have to overcome on a daily basis…the list goes on! I relate art a lot with sports actually; it’s extremely tough, highly demanding and totally unpredictable.

7. What challenges have you faced in balancing your artistry with other commitments, and how have you overcome them?
I don’t ‘balance’ with other commitments…the artistry always comes first. Everything else has to fit around it or adapt to it.

8. You’ve created some incredible moments including 2024’s Tempietto Serenade at Villa Frère Valletta, 2022’s Carla Grima Silk in Motion fashion show at Palazzo Parisio and of course, your 2021 inaugural performance at Phoenicia Hotel.

i) Can you name some other places/performances/collaborations?
 I’ve performed over 30 shows in China and Asia in the last two years which I did not expect at all so I’m truly grateful for each and every experience and how things turned out.

ii) Do you have a favourite venue, collaboration or highlight of your career so far?
One of the many special ones was a 2024 series that combined exhibition, live concert and audience participation. Over 11 different multidisciplinary artists – including calligraphers, painters, illustrators, sound designers – were invited to participate in one of my live concerts at a 100 year-old gallery (built by Australian architect Arthur Purnell). These artists were set up in the gallery’s corners away from the audience’s view, to create their art synchronised with listening to my live music. After the concert, artists had 10 days to finalise their work and then all the concert-related art pieces were exhibited inside the gallery for over a month on one dedicated floor while my music concept was played on another floor. At the same time, many of my Malta-based shows were presented on different screens in video format. Meanwhile, the third floor aired the documentaries we had filmed with the various artists and architects over the month of preparation. Finally, the last room was a space for the audience members to draw their own pieces after the exhibition to be subsequently hung in the gallery. Over 45 days, we collected more than 300 art pieces, all inspired by the show and exhibition concept. So the end result was: My improvised music → Art creation → Music + Art exhibition → Audience creation + exhibition. I still can’t believe it happened and that I witnessed my music creating such a ripple effect.

iii) What was the most difficult, challenging, intense performance (if you’re willing to share)?
I did an open air, sunrise (4:15 am) performance by the sea on a rooftop once. I was exhausted from doing two shows the previous night and getting barely three hours sleep; I hadn’t even removed my makeup or hairstyle as there was literally no time to do fresh hair and makeup for this next show. What’s more, the weather totally changed just hours before my performance and the temperature dropped to eight degrees. The whole time I was playing, there were non-stop cold winds, so strong that they sounded the same volume as my piano, made my head hurt and left me barely able to open my eyes and see the keys. The audience all had thick blankets while I had half frozen fingers – yet I somehow had to find a way to co-exist with the weather and still create a beautiful melody on the spot for 40 minutes. To top things off, I nearly got blown off the stairs, trying to come down from the roof and all the staff were freaking out. So THAT was definitely an experience! I actually don’t regret it but I don’t think I’ll do it again haha.

9. You have dramatic stories about the transport of your piano to different venues for your performances and the sheer logistical effort involved. Can you tell us some of these stories?
Many times it involves high-ups, trucks, six to eight men carrying it through different cracks and angles… One time, I was doing a performance in a garden and we built a stage specially for it. The movers threw a tantrum two hours before the show and refused to carry the piano from the garden path onto the stage, trying to leave it in the middle of the road. Obviously I managed to convince them as there is no other choice. It’s a non-negotiable situation I have to go through every time to make sure the show goes on and the magic of the concert is preserved. And that’s just one logistic out of many!

10. Do you see your work as contributing to Malta’s cultural or artistic scene? If so, how?
All of the local shows I’ve done are inspired by architecture, ideas, stories, spaces specifically connected to Malta. Since I started this journey, I have received many generous compliments and support that I’m immensely grateful for. I feel like the scene here is very open and encouraging and I keep seeing many familiar and new faces at my Malta shows. I would like to use this opportunity to say how much I treasure all my audiences. They make everything worthwhile, especially when they share their feelings and thoughts with me after a concert. This is actually my favourite part – understanding where they travelled to in their imagination while listening to me play…I feel like the audience’s imagination actually completes my music.

11. Do you have any advice – based on your own experience – for youngsters who are interested in learning to play the piano?
Only play if you truly love music and love to play. Find the way that suits you the best, rather than the best way to play.

12. Are there any unfulfilled dreams or projects you’re hoping to pursue in the next few years?
There are quite a few on the list and I’m really excited for the right moments to present themselves. I have been wanting to collaborate with a harpist and marimba player to create musical pieces together. If you know of any, please reach out to me?.

13. Any thoughts about being chosen as a Wonder Woman of Malta?
I’m the third person to have been chosen as a Wonder Woman of Malta which is definitely an honour and  I’m very excited to be a part of this. Together with many other wonder women alongside me, I can’t wait to continue my musical journey with this special community you guys created throughout all these years. Thank you with all my heart! 

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An ability to create melody on the spot, a growing repertoire of performances, a boldness for rocking beautifully audacious fashion and a collaborative spirit make Yun Cai a worthy choice as Wonder Woman of Malta.

(Also, bravery in the name of art. Seriously, did you READ Number 8?)

Who doesn’t love a list? At the start of the summer, we brought you a fantastic collection of reading recommendations on Personal and Business Development. Now, as we start wrapping up another year, we have a final fabulous feast of a blog post for you. What BETTER way to help you end 2024 and start 2025 than to treat you to another cracking cornucopia of book suggestions to inform, inspire and motivate you on this rollercoaster we call life. 

Whether it’s business success stories, eye-opening philosophies on health and happiness, helpful dives into focus and productivity, riveting insights into motivation and mindset or practical strategies for success…the following smorgasbord of book ideas has it all. 

New year, new books! So, read it and reap.

1. Awaken the Giant Within  – Tony Robbins

From the author: “I know that no matter where you are in your life, you want more! No matter how well you’re already doing or how challenged you now may be, deep inside you there lies a belief that your experience of life can and will be much greater than it already is. You are destined for your own unique form of greatness.” Awaken the Giant Within is the ultimate programme for improving the quality of every aspect of life, be it personal, business, physical or emotional. Focusing on the power of conscious decision-making, Robbins provides game-changing strategies and tools for taking control of one’s emotions, finances and relationships, with the goal of helping readers immediately become the masters of their own fate.

2. Creating Your Best Life: the Ultimate Life List Guide – Caroline Adams Miller & Michael B Frisch

For the first time, the science of positive psychology meets the science of goal accomplishment. Comprehensive and evidence-based, Creating Your Best Life breaks new ground in revealing how happiness and success are interconnected. With dozens of interactive exercises and quizzes, it helps readers identify their most cherished needs, ambitions, and wishes so they can take control of their environment and maximise their chances of success. The authors’ unique life list coaching provides step by step explanations of how to set goals in 16 key areas, inspire people to live their lives more consciously, productively, and joyfully.

3. Deep Work – Cal Newport

The concept of deep work is the ability to focus without distraction on a cognitively demanding task – making us better at what you do and enabling us to achieve more in less time. Developing a deep work practice is literally one of the most important habits to adopt, yet most people have lost this ability, instead spending their days in a frantic email and social media blur. This life-changing book presents a mix of cultural criticism, compelling manifesto and immediately actionable advice for cultivating focus and achieving success across all aspects of life. One of its key lessons is that it is wrong to view deep work as yet another thing to cram into the schedule. Instead, deciding to truly commit to it transforms your time, resulting in getting through shallow work faster, being more present in your home life and preventing wasted time from switching between tasks.

4. Delivering Happiness, a Path to Profits, Passion and Purpose – Tony Hsieh

Paying brand-new employees a four figure amount to quit, making customer service the responsibility of the entire company, focusing on company culture as the top priority,, encouraging employees to grow personally and professionally, seeking to change the world… These were all Tony Hsieh’s standard operating procedures as CEO of online retailer Zappos. Delivering Happiness is the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller about how Tony Hsieh applied the science of happiness and Positive Psychology principles to building a company that achieved $1bn in annual gross merchandise sales and became the highest-ranking newcomer in Fortune magazine’s 2009 “Best Companies to Work For” list. Sharing the lessons he has learned from life and his many businesses, Hsieh shows how a very different kind of corporate culture is a powerful model for achieving success – and how by concentrating on the happiness of those around you, you can dramatically increase your own…

5. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity – David Allen

Author Daniel H. Pink, whose own book Drive made our previous list of 25 recommended books, says “I am a devout, card-carrying Getting Things Done true believer. The entire approach has boosted not only my productivity but also my wider well-being. But what amazes me just as much is how deeply GTD has taken hold around the world. . . . This is a genuine movement”. Since it was first published almost fifteen years ago, Allen’s book has earned the label of ‘Bible of personal and business productivity. It is now shorthand for an entire way of approaching professional and personal tasks and has spawned an entire culture of websites, organisational tools, seminars and offshoots. This updated version contains important perspectives on the new workplace.

6. The Examined Life, How We Lose and Find Ourselves – Stephen Groetz

Echoing Socrates’ statement that the unexamined life is not worth living, psychoanalyst Stephen Grosz draws on twenty-five years of work and over 50,000 hours of conversations to curate this illumination of the human experience. His book offers a collection of stories, including that of a woman who finds herself daydreaming as she returns home from a business trip, a young man who loses his wallet, the patient who points an unloaded gun at a police officer and the compulsive liar who convinces his wife he’s dying of cancer. The resulting journey will spark new ideas about who we are and why we do what we do.

7. Fear Less – Pippa Grange

We strive for success, only to realise that reaching our goals can actually feel strangely hollow. We aim for status that often turns out to be unsatisfying. The more we try to win – putting on a brave face for work or family – the more we risk losing ourselves and feeling unhappy. The culprit? Fear. It makes us anxious, shameful and can turn us into perfectionists. There is another way though…a way to find our true voice and win on our own terms. Building that open mindset is at the heart of this book by Dr Pippa Grange, the psychologist who helped the England football team reach the World Cup semi-finals for the first time in 28 years. Fear Less shows how we can find our real passions and deeper fulfilment by starting to shed fear and live without it (or less of it). Her simple manifesto enables us to replace stress with courage and connect with the people around us on a far deeper level. This type of success isn’t about trophies or beating others, it’s about winning at the very deepest level: from within. 

8. Good to Great – Jim Collins

Good to Great is a management book full of vital ideas that reads as well as a fast-paced novel and is widely regarded as one of the most important business books ever written. Can a good company become a great one? If so, how? After a five-year research project, Jim Collins concludes that good to great can and does happen. In this book, he uncovers the underlying variables that enable any type of organisation to make the leap from good to great while other organisations remain only good. Rigorously supported by evidence, his findings are surprising – at times even shocking – to the modern mind. 

9. Grit: Why passion and resilience are the secrets to success – Angela Duckworth

What goes through your head when you fall down? Grit scrubs away preconceptions about how far our potential can take us and solves the riddle of how those not likely to succeed in fact do. At a time when our collective notion of success has shrunk to the point of being unrecognisable, Duckworth demonstrates how passion and perseverance matter as much as talent and intelligence. Far from simply urging us to work harder for the sake of working harder, Grit offers a perspective about true success coming from devoting ourselves to joyful and purposeful endeavours. Through masterful storytelling, latest science and and real-life examples, Duckworth takes us on an eye-opening journey to discover the true qualities that lead to outstanding achievement, showing the significant role of grit in achieving long-term goals.  

10. The Miracle Morning: The 6 Habits That Will Transform Your Life Before 8AM – Hal Elrod

After surviving multiple near-death experiences, Elrod is living proof that we can all overcome our challenges and make an impact in the world. His three million copies bestseller now occupies its place in the self development hall of fame, alongside Atomic Habits, The 5am Club and Make Your Bed. Elrod’s principle philosophy that getting everything we want out of life isn’t about doing more…it’s about becoming more. His revolutionary S.A.V.E.R.S. methodology is a simple yet effective step-by-step process to transform one’s life in as little as six minutes per day, by incorporating silence, affirmations, visualisation, exercise, reading and scribing. Try it and see for yourself!

11. The Myth of Normal, Gabor Maté

The Myth of Normal delivers a groundbreaking investigation into the causes of illness and a pathway to health and healing. Nearly 70% of Americans are on at least one prescription drug, one in five Canadians has high blood pressure and hypertension is diagnosed in more than 30% of Europe’s population. And everywhere, adolescent mental illness is on the rise. Renowned physician Gabor Maté and his son Daniel dissect these alarming rates of chronic illness and general poor health in Western countries that pride themselves on their healthcare systems. For all its expertise and technological sophistication, Western medicine often fails to treat the whole person, ignoring how modern culture stresses the body, burdens the immune system and undermines emotional balance. This book explores how our society breeds disease, challenges the prevailing understanding of ‘normal’ and uncovers the overlooked connection between trauma, stress and modern life’s pressures and our mental and physical health.

12. Outliers, The Story of Success –  Malcolm Gladwell

Outliers will change the way you think about your own life story and about what makes us all unique. Gladwell overturns conventional wisdom about genius to show us what makes an ordinary person an extreme overachiever. Why do some people achieve so much more than others? Can they lie so far out of the ordinary? In this provocative and inspiring book, Malcolm Gladwell looks at everyone from rock stars to professional athletes, software billionaires to scientific geniuses to show that the story of success is far more surprising and fascinating than we could ever have realised. It is as much about where we are from and what we do, as who we are and that nobody – not even a genius – ever makes it alone. 

13. The Power of Now – Eckhart Tolle

Described by Oprah as essential spiritual teaching and one of the most valuable books she’s ever read, this guide to fulfillment and happiness has sold 16 millions copies since its 2001 release. The Power of Now talks about leaving our analytical minds, false created selves, and egos behind as part of the quest to create a liberated life. To facilitate this journey of self discovery and renewal, Tolle provides a simply-worded question and answer format that shows how to silence our thoughts and learn to live in the present moment – achieving a deeper sense of peace and fulfillment. 

14. Stop Overthinking, The Path to Calm – Nick Trenton

Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness, trapping overthinkers in a never-ending thought loop and creating an exhausting mental prison of anxiety and stress. In Stop Overthinking, acclaimed author Nick Trenton walks readers through detailed, proven techniques to help rewire the brain, control one’s thoughts and change mental habits. The book provides scientific approaches that completely change the way we think and feel about ourselves by ending vicious thought patterns. This must-read is designed to help you stay present and keep your mind off things that don’t matter…and never will!

15. Thinking fast and slow – Daniel Kahneman

This groundbreaking psychology classic has sold over 10 million copies and changed the way we think about thinking. Distilling his life’s work and revolutionising our understanding of human behaviour, Nobel Prize-winning Kahneman (described as the godfather of behavioural science by Sunday Times) shows that there are two ways we make choices: fast, intuitive thinking and slow, rational thinking. His book reveals how our minds are tripped up by error, bias and prejudice (even when we think we are being logical) and gives practical techniques that enable us all to improve our decision-making. Exploring the marvels and limitations of the human mind, this book analyses why we make the decisions we do, impacting how we see ourselves. 

16. Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers – Timothy Ferriss

Author of bestselling The 4-Hour Workweek, The 4-Hour Body, and The 4-Hour Chef, Tim Ferris has been dubbed “the Oprah of audio” due to the influence of his 100M-plus-download podcast The Tim Ferriss Show. Ferriss has talked to nearly 200 world-class performers from super celebs and athletes to legendary Special Ops commanders and black-market biochemists for his podcast. Tools of Titans contains the distilled tactics, life lessons and habits that his interviewees have shared. The focus is on actionable details, reflected in questions such as ‘what do these people do in the first sixty minutes of each morning?’, ‘what books have they gifted most to other people?’, ‘what are the biggest wastes of time for novices in their field?’. Ferriss has vetted, explored and applied these tips to his own life in numerous ways. Now his readers can too. 

17. Rest Is Resistance: Free yourself from grind culture and reclaim your life – Tricia Hersey

Tricia Hersey is an artist, poet, theologian and community organiser. She is the founder of The Nap Ministry, an organisation that examines rest as a form of resistance by curating sacred spaces for the community to rest via Collective Napping Experiences, immersive workshops, performance art installations and social media. Rest is Resistance looks at the liberating power of rest as a portal through which we return to ourselves. This revolutionary book illuminates certain critical truths, helping readers become aware of the toxic systems of our times, encouraging them to no longer accept living at a machine pace. Hersey offers us rest not instead of the incredible work we are doing but shows us that our dream space is sacred and rest is how we reclaim access to the wisdom there. 

We hope that these recommendations provide at least one must-read that helps you think constructively about the year ahead, set goals for work or simply open your mind to new concepts and information. Happy reading!

Got any book recommendations of your own that you’d like to suggest for one of our future lists? We’d love to hear from you! Message us on: Instagram or Facebook

My motto is that there’s no substitute for hard work. When parents, clubs and girls catch on to this, it drives change and brings a lot of good things to the table.

Stephanie Tanti Desjardins’ entry into water polo was slightly unconventional. Originally a handball player, her first taste of water polo came after a friend suggested a way for Stephanie to stay active during handball’s off-season. Despite not being a strong swimmer initially, she showed goalkeeping potential which was recognised by the coach. A spark had been ignited…Stephanie soon found herself trading the dry handball court for the water polo pool. This unexpected beginning sparked a passion that has only grown stronger with time and “the rest is history,” as she reflects.

I had the recent pleasure of talking to Stephanie about her journey and the strides she and San Giljan Aquatic Sports Club are making to grow women’s water polo in Malta.

1.  Who inspires you today, both in water polo and beyond?
I’m inspired by overseas female water polo players who balance motherhood with competing at club and Olympic level. Women with a strong work ethic light a fire in me to get up and work harder.

2. What are some of the biggest achievements you and your team have had in recent years?
Winning the Knockout in 2022 stands out along with San Giljan Aquatic Sports Club’s current project: working on building the girls water polo nursery (7-13 years) which is coming along really well.

3. How do you balance training, competitions, parenthood and advocating for water polo’s development while also maintaining your love for the game and preventing burnout?
Good question. It is not easy! When my son turned 6 weeks, I was cleared to get back in the water with my team and within four months, I was back in the national team squad. It wasn’t easy but it wasn’t impossible, thanks to my husband who is my support system. And just having understanding people around me is key to avoiding the overwhelm of managing everything with a young child.

4. Do you think women bring unique qualities to water polo that aren’t always recognised – and how can female strengths help push the sport forward in Malta?
Women do bring a certain passion to the game and yes, it is not always recognised. Women’s water polo is quite new in Malta so people need to understand the ‘positive story’ behind less positive national team results. We have determined female players eager to learn and progress in a short space of time. Thank goodness the sport has evolved since I started playing. 

5. What do you think are the most important steps to ensure that women’s water polo gets crucial grassroots, community and club support?
Schools need to introduce water sports into their curriculum by partnering with water polo clubs and the Sport Malta council to give girls a proper chance to engage with this sport. This is one of my current projects: in October we’ll have five days of morning sessions where over 350 students from two different schools will try water polo out during school hours.

6. What role can media, businesses and local institutions play in ensuring more people see, appreciate and support women’s water polo?
Media plays a big role. Recently the ladies U19 national team competed overseas and nothing was shown on TV whereas the U19 boys received full coverage. This inequality needs to be addressed –  and asap. We’re also seeking sponsorship from local businesses to support the team because financial backing is instrumental in making everything work.

7. Please tell us about the vision behind San Giljan ASC’s three-year plan to compete at an international level (and what it could/would mean for women’s water polo in Malta)?
“We’re investing significant time and effort on building the team from nursery to senior level. When a club shows commitment to player development, it generates interest from other clubs and players. Our players share our vision and work harder (and this helps attract international players). Of course, women’s water polo first has to reach a high enough level to properly compete internationally – and not simply compete for the sake of participating. This is a collective effort, with the players, coach, and club all working together to make this dream a reality.”

8. Apart from this 3 year plan, how else is San Giljan ASC contributing to the advancement of senior women’s water polo – and inspiring young girls to take up water polo?
“Some of our senior team players have started coaching within the newly founded nursery, inspiring the next generation of players. When youngsters have role models to look up to, this automatically instils a work ethic and ambition to follow in their footsteps.”

9. What has been the response from your nursery younger players and how do you see their involvement shaping the future of women’s water polo in Malta?
“This summer we took to the San Giljan Festa, distributing flyers offering a month of free water polo sessions for girls and ran a social media initiative that attracted 20 sign-ups for September. The newcomers loved the sessions, resulting in 13 confirmed registrations at the nursery level. It  demonstrated the importance of embracing opportunities to reach out to the community. I’m really proud of the campaign and the women who helped from the start.”

10. How do you strike a balance between encouraging a competitive spirit within water polo beginners and ensuring the sport remains fun for these young girls?
“Making sessions enjoyable is key. Our coach Marko Martinic creates a fun, positive atmosphere while also instilling discipline and order. Kids respect structure more than we think, but they also want to enjoy the sport. It’s vital to their continued enjoyment of the sport.”

11. San Giljan ASC actively fosters a sense of ownership and pride among players of all ages. Have you noticed this culture’s positive impact on player development and club success?
“There’s definitely a ripple effect. Entrusting part of the team with nursery level coaching has created a sense of belonging and pride in the club. As team manager, I give everyone the space to talk freely and when players are interested in greater responsibility, it shouldn’t be ignored. (We also have two senior level players who play abroad during the winter, providing our young players with aspirations for when they’ve fully developed their skills here in Malta.)”

12. What can local players learn from international players that you’re planning to add to the team?
“Training and playing alongside higher level athletes automatically sharpens your focus and elevates your  game. San Giljan ASC brings in international talent during the summer who share their expertise and teach our players as many tricks of the trade as possible.”

13. How will the club ensure Malta retains the local talent it has nurtured and minimise the loss of talented players to clubs abroad?
Every club needs to focus on developing female players from a young age. Once this strong grassroots setup is established, we won’t find ourselves impacted by players going abroad, moving out of the sport or retiring. Ideally, players will aspire from early on to play abroad, they’ll grow and develop until they reach the point where they’re ready to be sent overseas and meanwhile their club continues to thrive. 

14. There is a lot of talk globally about the value of playing for one’s national team versus what  players actually get paid. What is your perspective on playing for Malta’s national women’s water polo team and what does it mean to represent your country?
It’s every player’s dream to represent their own country. It was mine and I played for Malta with pride but there’s no financial agreement for female water polo players. I believe this needs to change, especially considering the time, energy and risk of injury involved. Players dedicate countless hours to training to represent their country and at senior level, there surely has to be some form of incentive through sponsorship or endorsements. This exists in sport elsewhere so why is it viewed as a shame or dishonour when it comes to Maltese sport?

15. As one of Malta’s key figures in women’s water polo, what motivates you to keep pushing for progress amidst a historically male-dominated sport?
An easy one for me: if a woman doesn’t push for equality, who will? It’s an uphill battle but I continue to strive for this. I speak openly about the inequality and these conversations crucially raise awareness of the issue. It absolutely does need to change!

16. As someone featured in the Wonder Women of Malta series, which celebrates the women working to influence and shape Malta’s future, how do you see your role in changing the narrative around women in sports?
I’m honoured yet humbled to be considered. As a player, I always believed in doing things the right way. Now as team manager and nursery coordinator, I hold a precious key to unlocking the changes I longed for so much as a player. I’m committed to convincing those around me that things have the potential to be different by just being open to some simple changes. I know how I felt about the inequality I experienced firsthand in sport. So my mission is to ensure my players don’t ever have to feel that way. My motto is that there’s no substitute for hard work. When parents, clubs and girls catch on to this, it drives change and brings a lot of good things to the table.

17. The United Nations has chosen “Girls’ vision for the future” as this year’s International Day of the Girl theme. If you could give one piece of advice to a young girl interested in pursuing water polo – or any sport! – in Malta, what would it be?
Have fun, work hard and reach for the stars. Never be ashamed to shine!

The passion and determination Stephanie brings to women’s water polo – supported by her teammates, family, and community – are the constants that keep driving her forward. As a leading advocate for the sport, the San Giljan ASC alumnus has transitioned from saving goals to setting them… Her commitment to raising the next generation of female water polo players in Malta, empowering them to flourish on the local and international stage, firmly establishes her as a Wonder Woman of Malta.